self development

This is How to Obliterate (Social) Anxiety – Red Lemon Club

Most suggestions about how to ‘fix’ our social anxiety are devoid of motion/action/movement: ‘Meditate for hours daily.’ ‘Repeat affirmations that you are confident.’ ‘Pray.’ ‘Just relax and be yourself.’ ‘Take that pill.’ ‘Think differently.’ ‘Be present.’ ‘Talk about your sad childhood with a therapist.’ Some of these can help. Absolutely. However, I do not believe …

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How to REALLY do what you love, and change your life doing it – Red Lemon Club

Making art for a living is hard. Hang on, you didn’t think it was supposed to be easy, did you? ‘Go and do what you love, and the money will follow!’ They say. ‘Follow your passion!’ They hoot. None of these feel-good phrases gets to the truth of what is involved. Now, don’t get me …

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Ten small steps to living a good life – Red Lemon Club

There’s this thing you’ve been avoiding… That thing you think of when you wake up in the morning. The thing you’ve been making excuses for so that you never have to come face to face with it. But, it eats away at you. Breathing down your neck. Like that sleeping dragon, Smaug. Out there; a …

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This is the only obsession worth having, and it isn’t to be liked – Red Lemon Club

We get frustrated because we aren’t progressing as we had planned. We aren’t there with the traction we hoped we’d be getting with all this work we’re putting in. We’re not getting enough of them dratted likes, follows, pings, pokes, thumbs ups, and subscribes. And little Johnny Genius over on YouTube seems to be getting all …

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Knowing this will make you give less of a f*ck about what others think – Red Lemon Club

What’s the solution? Do we need to stop hiding? Not quite. That would mean taking on the additional burden of trying to ‘not hide.’ That takes work. The solution is to change your thinking. Remember your current philosophy? ‘The right thing is to be a good person.’ Here’s your new philosophy: ‘I am flawed, weird, …

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What would happen if you did these things every day… – Red Lemon Club

For thirty days… Reached out to someone to ask for help. Wrote a thousand words of total crap. Painted a picture and shared it online. Read fifty pages of a book. Quit watching porn. Did something that scared you. Wrote down twenty new ideas. Did fifty press-ups. Took and shared an interesting photograph. Made something …

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