What Is the Facebook Effect and How Does it Ruin Blogging Careers?

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Enjoying the sexy life of a pro blogger in Bangkok? Been here for 2 days. I love it.

You see; yesterday I walked around town for 5 hours. I even saw 3 foot long monitor lizards aka dinosaurs strolling around the park. Here is the guy we saw.

I posted that image on Facebook.

I bet 95% of bloggers saw the image on Facebook and said to themselves: “Ryan is so lucky. He’s spending all day hanging out with dinosaurs in Bangkok. What a life. he gets to travel the world, sitting around in tropical paradises, all day long. Must be nice. But alas, blogging success is not for me. I have worked so hard and still struggle.”

See how insane the Facebook Effect is? One split second, snap shot from my day, I shared to my Facebook wall, and your mind makes 10, 20 or 50 assumptions based on the split second image. Even more insane? Just because I shared 1 second from my day in Bangkok, your mind believes this is how I spent all 24 hours in Bangkok. Even WORSE? Just because I shared a split second image from Bangkok, your mind assumes I spent all day, every day, weeks on end, lazing around and doing nothing, while I see increasing blogging success.

Can you see why I advise bloggers to blog from the heart, not the mind? The mind is literally insane. It fears, creates all these wild, untrue scenarios, and then, based on mind lies, you assume that successful bloggers succeed due to luck, and, you quit blogging because you have not their luck, their talent or their drive. You ruined your blogging career based on a split second, snap judgment of the mind, making 10 false assumptions based on 1 second of 1 day, someone shared on Facebook.

Talk to Jan and Janice and Meg; they will set you straight. I put in serious time and they are always there, in my stream, putting in serious time. Each of my friends puts an incredible amount of generous service into blogging; their dreams are borne of their dogged determination. (dragons stroke my alliteration flames.) Success flows to committed bloggers.

What My Sunday Is Really Like in Bangkok Right Now

At 1:15 PM in Bangkok on Sunday, I have spent the past 5 hours:

  • working for 4 hours
  • eating breakfast for a few minutes
  • doing 50 minutes of deep yin yoga

Kinda pokes some holes in the mind assumptions you made, eh? Now you know why I spend some of my day socializing with monitor lizards in Bangkok; I spend a LOT MORE of my day working in a hotel room. Plus I spent most of the past 10 years of my life working at home, blogging, devoting 20,000 hours or more to writing, creating and connecting, to set up this life. Can you see why most bloggers fail? The overwhelming majority sees some pro blogger’s success or happiness, and takes a split second image, and makes insane assumptions, that the blogger is 100% happy all the time and how they get to circle the globe 24-7, 365 and never has to work at it.

Kelli at Life Made to Order and I – yes she is my wife – often dissect the Facebook effect. Literally, this delusional mistake is an out for anybody who cops out on living their dreams. You see a happy person living their dreams and forget the 10,000 to 20,000 hours they spent generously giving, serving and helping people to energetically BE the person who lives their dreams. Since you falsely assume success is easy for them, and tough for you, you quit. Hogwash.

Before you judge my life based on 1 Facebook photo, know this: I spent 20,000 hours serving human beings in front of a computer screen in houses, hotels and apartments all over the world…including MANY hours doing this in New Jersey, before I sniffed circling the globe. So do I still seem lucky to you? Still envious of me? Did YOU blog for 10 hours yesterday? I did. Even after I spent 5 hours wandering the streets of glorious Bangkok.

Put in the time:

  • learning blogging
  • creating content
  • building friendships by serving other bloggers

Succeed through service.

Prosper by accepting the REST of the story; every brilliant, dream snapshot you see of me in a tropical paradise comes attached to 20,000 hours of generous work.

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